It does not matter if you are planning to speak in public or prepare for your child's birthday, in different situations the goal is to move towards success. No matter what success we expect to achieve, there are always obstacles in the way of movement and effort. When faced with obstacles to success, there are two options: either we lose our chance to succeed or we face these challenges consciously and ready.
Although obstacles to success may seem like the outside world It opposes us, but in fact these external problems often trigger challenges that already exist. These challenges may be memories or beliefs we have about ourselves that can slow us down. The situation will be different if we are already prepared to face these obstacles successfully. In this article, we have introduced 8 major obstacles that you must overcome to achieve success.
1. Perfection and excellence
One of the most common obstacles to success with What we face is perfection. "His mother always told him that doing something better than doing it well," says Elizabeth Gilbert, author of Magical Thinking. It is very difficult for people prone to perfectionism to stay on the path to success because everything must always be perfect. The perfection of the killer is creativity, vitality, and accidental discovery.
There are many people who have accidentally made many discoveries about what we use on a daily basis. If these people were very worried about being perfect, they would never enjoy the success of their mistakes. In addition, learning from mistakes helps to evolve and grow throughout life. Perfection, then, is never a direct path to success. But how can we stop perfectionism? Since it takes years to reach the pinnacle of a skill, it takes practice and time to stop perfectionism.
Use the following tips to stop perfectionism:
- Try new things and exceed your expectations.
- Do not do anything on your to-do list. Sometimes postpone doing them until tomorrow.
- Learn to prioritize.
- Send the wrong email.
Fear is another obstacle to success that is exacerbated when the thought or perception of being in a state of insecurity We are going to come to us. Fear is a practical tool, especially when there is a real threat. However, when fear is imaginary, it can actually stop us from doing what we need to do to achieve our goals. To deal with fear, we must have a more conscious mind, like perfectionism. Here are some steps we can take to begin the process of preparation for mediation.
- Notice when you feel fear in you. Pay attention to the thoughts that make up this feeling.
- Ask yourself what you fear will happen and write down your answers.
- Imagine yourself experiencing the worst fears. How do you feel about the worst experience of your worst fears?
- Ask yourself when did you feel this way before? How did you cope with that? What strengths did you use in your previous imagination?
- Imagine yourself using your strengths in the face of your worst fears. How would you feel if you knew it did not matter what happened and if you had the tools and resources to manage it?
In this exercise we will try to deal with fear. Fear actually tries to help you by keeping you safe and reminds you of memories of times when you were threatened in life. But when we put all our energy into avoiding fear, we make it stronger. In addition, we deny all the memories in which we have encountered and overcome fear.
3. Lack of transparency
Imagine that you have a journey in which you have to gather the necessary equipment. Your luggage is open but you do not know any details about the trip. you have not decided where to go, how long to stay and what to do there. How easy will it be to pack up for this trip? If we want to do our work without transparency, it becomes impossible to determine what we need to do to succeed. But how can we achieve transparency?
Writer and speaker Simon Sinek has provided great tips for businesses on achieving transparency that can be applied to all walks of life. According to Simon Sync you need to start the message clarification with why and why not. In other words, why do you have to do this? Once you have a clear reason for why, what will be done and what you should do will be much easier.
Let's go back to packing, for example. Maybe your reason for traveling is to rest in order to relieve the many stresses you have endured. This reason indicates that it is better to go to a quiet place than a place full of spectacular attractions. In fact, you do not need much activity, but you should take care of your body, mind and soul. you will probably want to spend a few days in one place. The less movement you have during the trip, the less stress you will have. Now you know how to prepare your travel gear.
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overcome It) Comparing
Comparing yourself to others is normal. In this way we can check that things are done right and see how we can continue to progress. When we always compare ourselves to other people and feel bad that we are not achieving as well as others, our energy decreases. As energy declines, so does the motivation to keep trying to reach our goals.
you need to be aware of the importance you place on the work of those around you. To stop comparing yourself to others, do the following:
- Pay attention to the feelings you get when comparing yourself to others.
- Ask yourself how this comparison compares. What is the benefit and what is the benefit?
- Write down the useful points that come from this question and eliminate the rest.
- Remember when comparing yourself to another person you often see potential that already exists in you.
5. Uninterrupted and uninterrupted internal conversation
How do you talk to yourself? Do you say motivating and encouraging words to yourself? Or do you often have negative inner conversation? Untamed internal conversation can be a major obstacle to success. Many people grow up with the idea that inner conversation is what drives people to become better human beings. Humans work hard to prevent laziness. Internal conversation can quickly turn into a negative conversation. Contrary to the goal of personal improvement, the habit of constantly checking your wrongdoing can drain a great deal of our energy.
According to the Mayo Clinic, overcoming negative internal conversation is good for your health. Compassionate inner dialogue brings benefits such as reducing depression, improving the immune system, and improving coping skills. Here are some tips to help you become more aware of your inner conversation and have a more compassionate conversation: What the trustee tells you.
- Thinking about what you would say to your friend if he were you.
Having blurred boundaries is another obstacle to success. We have previously examined the importance of inner boundaries on the path to success, which include examining our fears, limiting the need to be perfect, lacking clarity about purpose and goal, unhealthy comparisons with others, or negative inner conversation. We now turn to the boundaries that we need to clearly define in our lives with other people. In fact, setting boundaries does not mean saying no to everything and cutting off communication with everyone else. Healthy external boundaries mean communicating with others about what you want, how you want them to treat you, and your plans.
If we have vague boundaries with others, success can only be achieved by chance. . Especially people who seek to please others know how difficult it is to set boundaries with others. The desire for empathy can be strong enough for some people to convince themselves to let others make decisions for them instead of being exposed to conflict and conflict.
The problem with this is that It is that no matter how hard we try to resolve the conflict with others, the internal strife and incompatibility that ensues still blocks the path to success. If you have difficulty in defining clear boundaries with others, try to gradually develop and strengthen the following skills:
Having big dreams is very important. By doing this, we allow ourselves to come up with ideas, and great thoughts come to our minds. But if our dreams are not compatible with the resources and circumstances we have, we will become frustrated or even lose our dreams.
Setting reasonable expectations is the key to success. It is not always possible to tell if something is logical, especially when you are trying out a new project. If you expect a new project to go smoothly, your expectation is unreasonable and you will lose the motivation to succeed.
If you expect a new project to have errors and bugs that cause Learn and grow, even mistakes lead to success. This has a positive effect on the motivation to keep going and even achieve more success.
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8. Irrational definition of success
What is your definition of success? In other words, from what aspect are you looking for success? It is very easy to think that success means achieving the goals we have set for ourselves. But there are many ways to measure success. Even missing out on some opportunities may make you feel real and successful in life.
An irrational definition of success can be that success is something that only leads to a certain result. If that result is not achieved, no success has been achieved. But if we have several definitions of success, we find that success is much easier than we thought.
Ask yourself the following questions to develop your definition of success:
- What must happen for me to feel successful?
- What else can make me feel successful?
All that In answering these questions, write down what comes to your mind to create a sense of accomplishment, and overcome another obstacle to success.
In the end, being successful requires overcoming many
obstacles, and Most people fail at some of the obstacles to
success. The key is to break down these barriers step by step.
According to the Joyce brothers, success is a state of mind.
Think of yourself as a successful person if you are looking